the strangest thing has been happening.
i'm seeing ads for engagement rings everywhere!
yes i'm in a relationship, but this isn't one of those "i want him to propose so bad i can taste it" things. this is an "omg, wtf is going on!?" kind of thing.
after the 3rd time it happened i figured the universe was trying to tell me something.
so i thought about it and i figured out that i didn't really care what ring he proposed with, because as long as it's from him i'll be happy. but then a friend asked how i'd want him to propose! oh boy.
shockingly, i didn't have to think hard about that one. i immediately said "nantucket", and imagined him kneeling down in the middle of the town on the busiest street. of course i'd say "yes".
i had no plan of telling him this, but i blurted out the nantucket part while at a party. major blush moment, but oh well. i assured him at home that i'm in no rush, but this morning in the shower i had an epiphany. much like the ring, i don't care how he proposes. i mean of course there's my own ideal but when it comes right down to it if the man is saying he wants to spend the rest of his life with me what do i care where he pops the question? we'd have a lifetime of travel and moments together after that. some memories of which would probably way outweigh the brevity of his proposal. so ultimately its a shallow concern even though it makes for a great story.
then i thought "why does it have to be just once?" what if he proposed however he wanted to initially and then we came up with other beautiful and fun scenarios to fulfill the romantic fantasy?" some couples excitedly plan public places to have sex or other sexual fantasies, why couldn't we plan and fulfill each others romantic fantasies?"
people renew their vows all the time. my ex-hubs even got down on one knee to say "will you stay married to me?" when we were having problems. it didn't keep us together in the end but it was still a beautiful and memorable moment.
so i'm proposing a new marital habit for those looking to keep things exciting...propose! frequently!
what woman isn't flattered by a man professing his love? and ladies how much fun could you have with your excitement and celebration of saying yes? maybe you could propose to him!? there are a multitude of possibilities, and if you're creative and fickle like me, once is just not enough. and think of the joy and hope you'd spread to those around you who witness your display? the world could use more love anyway. so again, I say have at it!
my day will come, and when it does, may it come again and again and again.